I read recently that Valentine’s Day is now an $18 billion business. Wow! According to an ABC News report that comes to an average of $136.57 per person. We Americans know how to splurge on a holiday, don’t we? Maybe, it will come as no surprise, that I tell you, for the month of February, here at samjerry.com, we are going to focus on relationships.
Not how to fall in love or keep a lover happy type relationships. Although I would be down for that conversation too, instead we are going to look at three areas of our lives where relationships matter and sex doesn’t have to be involved.
First, we will look at friendships and the importance of having a tribe and the importance of celebrating platonic female relationships. We will look at what these relationships do for us in our everyday lives. February 13th is Galentine’s Day!
Galentine’s Day was first introduced in 2010 on an episode of Parks and Recreation. One of the characters, Leslie, played by the fantastic Amy Poehler, decided to create a holiday to celebrate the female relationship. The celebration took place around booze and brunch (come on now) and the tradition of celebrating and recognizing the bond of female relationships began. Have you seen the episode? Check out the highlights here!
You can join me, my amazing friend Amy Robinson from A Tribe of Women and a few other friends via Facebook on February 13th for our own Facebook Galentine’s Day Party. I’m excited about this. Give me a theme, and I become another person.
Self: Don’t Forget About ME
In the second relationship installation, we will talk about our relationship with self and ways we can nurture and cultivate a healthy self-relationship.
Self often gets overlooked and sometimes a stigma of selfishness is attached to doing things for one’s self. (see, just in that sentence there was so much self) As women, we often find our identity and worth only in service to others.
As a young mother who is tired from 2 A.M. feedings with chaffed nipples and thinning hair it is easy to lose the “you” inside of you. It is easy to get lost in your job and one day realize your identity is your job.
What can happen when we make appointments with ourselves and keep them? Can this small act make us better moms, friends, employees, and lovers? I would say you bet your sweet smelling bubble bath it can.
Conflict Can Be So Conflicting
And finally, we will look at resolving conflict in our relationships. How can you hear what the other person is saying and also have a voice? What does that look like in relationships of any kind?
For instance, my husband and I have been married thirty years and we recently had a season that was a first for us as a couple. Unfortunately, our relationship got really bad before it got better. The reason for it taking us so long to find a solution is because we stopped communicating.
And it seems when we were attempting to communicate we weren’t doing it very well. We weren’t hearing what the other one was actually saying.
We each were projecting our fears and frustrations into the other’s words and it caused us to spiral into confusion and mistrust. I’d like to unpack that with you and see if you can see yourself in there somewhere.
I look forward to sharing with you all and hearing your thoughts as we look at a few different aspects of relationships this month.
Be you. Be beautiful. Be imperfect.