Galentine’s Day is here and it is time to celebrate platonic female relationships and all they have to offer. Do you have a group of women you connect with on a regular basis? Are you someone who has always had a great connection with friends? Or are you someone who has had to learn or is still learning to navigate friendships?
Connection is Vital
I was a young mom, a teen mom. My daughter was born in February, I turned eighteen in April, and I graduated from high school in June all in the same year.
At that age, I wasn’t mature enough to handle graduating high school, and for sure I wasn’t mature enough to handle motherhood, but I did it, and I did it pretty much alone.
Neither of my parents ever went to a doctor’s appointment or a birthing class with me, and I alone navigated the challenges of being pregnant in high school.
If ever I needed a tribe it was then. Since that time in my life I desire to let women know they are not alone. I love connecting women to women. A connection is vital. It is also simple. It can be as simple as smiling at a mom who is corralling an unruly child. This may not seem like much, but I remember being young and searching the faces in a crowd or at a mall for a friendly smile or a simple connection to bring assurance to my troubled heart.
When we connect with one another shame can’t hang around. When we communicate and open up to one another a beautiful thing happens, we unite, we lean in, and we create an environment of inclusion.
A tribe is important. Female relationships are important. The bond we form with one another should be one full of compassion and encouragement. Its true that mean girls are real, but I’m not talking about them here. I’m focusing on the women who show up for one another by supporting one another and cheering one another on as we set and meet the goals of our lives.
As a young wife, I wanted Michael, my husband, to be my best friend, and he is, but there are some things he can’t offer. Like makeup tips and scheduling apps or the understanding of what it’s like to be overlooked for promotion for no other reason than because I have boobs and a vagina.
Celebrating Female Relationships
As women, we often find our identity and worth when we are in service to others. Think about it. As a mom, we become known as Johnny’s mom or room mom. As a wife, we support our husbands. As a daughter, we often become caretakers of our parents.
But when do we become Me?
In 2010 on an episode of Parks and Recreation, Amy Poehler’s character, Leslie gathers her friends together on February 13th for brunch, booze, and celebration…Galentine’s Day was born. Leslie, of course, goes overboard with gifts. One such gift is a 5,000-word essay to each attendee detailing all the ways in which they are fantastic.
But the concept of celebrating and recognizing female relationships is both clever and brilliant. Celebrating what we as women have in common rather than focusing on what our differences are is a beautiful way to embrace each other. So let’s do it, shall we?
How Will You Celebrate?
I can relate with how Leslie gets caught up in the celebration. I do love a theme. Here are a few suggestions I have for you if you are thinking about embracing and celebrating on Galentine’s Day, February 13th.
- Brunch is always good. Really any gathering where food is involved is sure to be a hit.
- Have a vision board party. Everyone brings old magazines and paper, and everyone can cut and paste to their heart’s content. Decorate and help support one another’s visions for crushing goals.
- Have a book or clothing exchange. This not only helps get rid of clothing or books that no longer serve you but also allows you to perhaps bring home a few “new” items.
- Go skating or go for a run.
- Gather and watch the Made For More documentary on Amazon Prime. It is the documentary Rachel Hollis, author of Girl, Wash Your Face and Girl, Stop Apologizing, did about her women’s conference, Rise, held last year in L.A. (and, ahem, I’m in it)
Whatever you decide to do I hope you embrace the spirit of the celebration and recognize the beautiful bond of female relationships. These relationships are important. They matter. You matter.
If you don’t have plans for Galentine’s Day and you would like to join a virtual party, I will be hosting a video Galentine’s Day party with my friend, Amy Robinson. Amy operates the organization Tribe of Women. Join us as we discuss further female relationships and see what can happen when we show up for one another.
Be you. Be beautiful. Be imperfect.