What is Chic Tribe anyway?
Is it a sorority? A clique? A cult? I jest, but many chic tribe women have heard these questions. Seriously. We have.
I’m excited to say In less than two weeks we are having our first Northwest Arkansas Chic Tribe meet and greet. Curious, hungry for more women will gather at a local brewery in Fayetteville and I couldn’t be happier.
This morning something happened as I was cutting a client’s hair, she turned her face up to me and said, “What is this thing I accepted an invite to? What are we doing?” First of all, I love that she just jumped in and wanted to be involved and second I realized not everyone knows and understands what chic tribe is. So….here we are. I thought this would be the perfect time to explain to everyone what chic tribe is. That way when people ask if you’re in a cult, you’ll know what to say.
I can’t mention Chic Tribe without mentioning Rachel Hollis
Rachel is the best selling author of Girl, Wash Your Face and my friend. I have the photos to prove it. (wink) You can read my piece on Rachel here. Rachel’s blog is The Chic Site, and she refers to her followers (friends) as the Chic Tribe. It is not required to fan girl over Rachel to be in the Chic Tribe, but you just might.
I see Rachel as the friend who organized and threw an epic party, better known as Rise, a personal development conference put on (mostly) by women for women, and then she introduced us all to one another. You can read about Rise 2018 here and here.
Literally, women from all over the world are in the Chic Tribe and we represent EVERY walk of life. The encouragement and inspiration coming from these women is powerful enough to change lives.
WOMEN LIFTING WOMEN
The women in the Chic Tribe are not worried about differences but instead celebrate the shared belief that we are all wonderful, strong and capable. We are women whose aim is to live our best life and who share and spread encouragement and bravery. We believe we are made for more.
And to think it all started online. See, the internet has been good for something.
We All Want to Belong
In Brené Brown’s book, The Gifts of Imperfection, she defines belonging as, “the innate human desire to be part of something larger than us. Because this yearning is so primal, we often try to acquire it by fitting in and by seeking approval, which are not only hollow substitutes for belonging, but often barriers to it.”
I believe some of us want to belong so badly that we often sacrifice parts of ourselves to “fit in” or “have friends”. Am I right?
Many of you have small children and you are beginning to experience play dates. Just because you have a child and the lady in red has a child does not mean you will be friends. It also doesn’t mean it isn’t possible, I mean, you may hang out, but you are not “friends”. We have lots of people in our lives like that, casual relationships. These aren’t the people we confide in or ask help from. They are not who we bare our souls to or share our dreams and desires with.
These are surface people and that is part of the human existence, and yet, these relationships leave us, as Brené writes, “with the innate human desire to be part of something larger than us.”
Because, Brené goes on, “true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self acceptance.”
Unfortunately, it isn’t possible to connect with everyone on this level. That is where Chic Tribe comes in.
We are like minded women who stand before one another imperfect and authentic; striving to fully accept ourselves while embracing one another.
The Chic Tribe offers a safe place to unpack our daily struggles and get an atta girl at the same time. We cheer one another on and exchange parenting tips, recipes, relationship advice and style tips.
We are women who realize that if one of us is going through something someone else in the tribe is going through or has gone through it too.
When we belong, we are not alone. When we are not alone we often feel safe. When we are safe, we heal. When we heal we are unstoppable. We are dreamers and makers. Shout out to Jen Hatmaker!!!!
Now, #realtalk….do we walk this path twenty four seven? No, no one can. Yet we strive to walk the walk and cheer one another on. For me, one fuels the other.
Through the Chic Tribe I have met women from every walk of life who are experiencing the spectrum of life. We are funny, smart, inventive, creative and we can dance.
Ultimately for me, Chic Tribe represents a frame of mind, a determination and a hunger for more.
In the last chapter of Girl, Wash Your Face, Rachel admonishes the reader, “You have the ability to change your life. You’ve always had the power, Dorothy. You just have to stop waiting for someone else to do it for you. There is no easy way out of this; there is no life hack. Just you and your God given strength and how much you desire change.”
Realizing that power and having the Chic Tribe members to cheer you on is a formula for success.
Do you currently have a tribe? If you live in Northwest Arkansas and you would like to grow your girlfriend tribe or make positive inspiring connections, I encourage you to join us on Thursday May 10th at Apple Blossom Brewing Co. on Zion Rd in Fayetteville from 6:30 to 8:30 P.M. The Facebook event invite is HERE. I hope to see you there.
You can also join us online or create your own tribe in your community.
Be you. Be beautiful. Be imperfect.